Samantha Oyler, founder of Maternal Menace Sleep
Broomfield, Colorado

Meet the founder

I'm Samantha.
Autism mom. AuDHD brain.
Sleep survivor.

My son is autistic and non-speaking. I've been up at 2am, exhausted, sensory-loaded, and told to try a method that was never designed for autistic neurology. I had to build my own approach. Now I help other families do the same.

I'm AuDHD — both autistic and ADHD, diagnosed. That shapes how I understand these kids. Not as a clinical observation, but because I live it. Sensory overload, executive dysfunction, the gap between knowing what to do and being able to do it — I don't read about it, I navigate it daily.

My son is autistic and non-speaking. He's the reason this work exists. When he was younger, sleep was a four-alarm fire every single night. I'd be up at 2am, holding him through a meltdown because the transition from day to night short-circuited his nervous system, knowing I had to be up again at 6am to do it all over again.

I tried the mainstream stuff. Weighted blankets. Sleep training books. The pediatrician who said "give it time." None of it was built for autistic neurology — and most of us figure that out pretty quickly. What finally worked was hiring a real sleep consultant. Within eight weeks, my son was sleeping through the night. So was I.

That's when I decided to do this professionally. I'm now completing my certification through Rest Mama Academy — approved by the International Pediatric Sleep Consultants (IPSCC) and the Association for Sleep Consultants (ASC). The credential is important. But what matters more is that I've lived it: the sensory processing, the routine rigidity, the meltdown prevention, the parent who's been awake since 11pm and has to function at 6am. I get it because I've been there.

"I don't give you a checklist. I teach you why your child's nervous system treats bedtime like a four-alarm fire — and then we build something that actually fits their neurology and your family's real life."

Why this is different

She lives it.
That is the credential.

Most sleep advice is written for neurotypical children. Sleep training, graduated extinction, "structured routines" — these were designed for brains that process transitions the way most parents expect. They don't account for sensory processing differences, arousal regulation challenges, or the specific way an autistic nervous system experiences bedtime as threat, not transition.

I've been up at 2am with a kid in full meltdown because the day-to-night switch short-circuited his system. I know what it means when someone tells you to "try a white noise machine" and you want to scream because you've tried everything and nothing is working and you're running on four hours of sleep and you have to do it again tomorrow.

Sensory processing, routine rigidity, meltdown prevention, parental presence — I understand these not from a textbook but from navigating them with my own family every day. When I work with a client, I'm not running a protocol. I'm translating what I know about autistic neurology into a plan that fits your specific child and your family's real life.

Rest Mama Academy gave me the clinical framework. My son gave me the rest.

You shouldn't have to figure this out alone.

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